Bride Opts to Walk Herself Down the Aisle to Honor Late Father, Mom Calls It Selfish and Insists Her Boyfriend of 6 Years Deserves It

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    AITAH for refusing to let my mom's boyfriend walk me down the aisle?
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    I (24F) am getting married next summer, and ever since I started planning the wedding, my mom (48F) has been pushing for her boyfriend (50M) to walk me down the aisle. My dad passed away when I was 10, and my mom
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    started dating her boyfriend about six years ago. While he's always been nice to me, I've never seen him as a father figure, he came into my life when I was already an adult, and we're friendly but not particularly close.
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    I told my mom that I plan to walk myself down the aisle as a way to honor my independence and my dad's memory. She got really upset, saying her boyfriend has "earned" the spot by being there for me all these years. She even
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    accused me of disrespecting her relationship and trying to "erase" my dad, which couldn't be further from the truth. Now her boyfriend is avoiding me, and my mom keeps calling me
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    selfish and saying I'm ruining the wedding before it even starts. A few family members are also weighing in, saying I should let him do it to keep the peace. But this is my wedding, and I feel like I should have the final say. AITAH?
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    DetectiveQueasy1711 Part ipant [1] NTA 8h ago. This is your wedding and, hopefully, your only one! It should be perfect according to your and your partner's needs and desires. Not an area for point of contentions. Your mother is being manipulative and insulting... > trying to "erase" my dad
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    You've already mentioned you're doing this to honour your father's memory. She's using your closeness to your father to control you. > saying her boyfriend has "earned" the spot by being there for me all these years
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    You don't get to earn a spot in a wedding. You simply get one given to you from the marrying couple. Nor should they feel disrespected for you wishing to honour your father and independence. > "my mom keeps calling me selfish and saying I'm ruining the wedding before it even starts" She's now resorting to being insulting.
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    Edymnion • 8h ago Professor Emeritass [89] NTA. If anyone is trying to "erase" your dad, its her. years You said you're 24, and this guy came into the picture about 6 ago, which would have made you 18 at the time. You were an adult. He is literally nothing to you unless you say otherwise. He didn't raise you, he's just your mother's boyfriend. Not even her husband.
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    Frankly he should be happy to get an invite as anything other than your mother's +1.
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    Ok-Horror-1049 • 8h ago • Certified Proctolog|st [22] NTA. Your wedding, your rules. Mom's BF came into your life when you were 18 years old. And while mom's guy may have(?) done some stand-up things for you, he didn't raise you. You have a father. He passed away, he didn't neglect or ab e you. Honoring him in your own way on YOUR day should be
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    respected. Nothing selfish about this on your part, mom and mom BF need to realize your wedding isn't about them. • NTA.
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    Chi-lan-tro • 8h ago • Part ipant [2] NTA - OP have you seen where people have had locket sized pictures of their loved ones tied to their bouquet? That would be a nice way to include your Dad.
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    That_Old_Cat • 8h ago • NTA If anything, your Mom should walk you down the aisle, not a man unrelated to you and unmarried to her. You walking yourself is perfectly fine and appropriate!
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    • SuperPookypower ⚫ 8h ago Part ipant [1] You don't just get the final say, you get the beginning and middle say and every other variation. You pick who you want in your ceremony. Maybe mom should be thinking about having her own wedding instead of getting so demanding about yours. NTA
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    EndiWinsi 8h ago. Part ipant [4] NTA Why is it always that people that are pushed too far that they should keep the peace? Your family members should tell your mum to keep the peace, respect your decision and shut up about it. That would keep the peace!
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    Now her boyfriend is avoiding me, and my mom keeps calling me selfish and saying I'm ruining the wedding before it even starts. A few family members are also weighing in, saying I should let him do it to keep the peace. But this is my wedding,

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